Here's one for you.
When your eight year old sobs that he is too scared to go to sleep at night and it happens night after night after night...
Are you sympathetic?
Do you sit with him and help him through his fear?
Or do you tell him that everything is fine and he needs to go to sleep and if he keeps coming out then the door will have to be shut and the night light turned off and then he'll really have something to be scared about?
Oh, it's just so hard to know what the right thing to do is! This parenting thing is too hard sometimes and I just want a real parent to come over and sort stuff out.
Good cop, gooder cop... yep, we need some help here.